Recently I committed to doing something that went waaaay outside my comfort zone: soliciting donations to a homeschool auction. Um, remember how I said that I’m an introvert? I don’t make a habit of calling up strangers and asking for stuff. But I had volunteered to make the contacts because they went along with running the auction. The auction needed to be organized and coordinated and that is one of my strengths. So there I was faced with a big list of companies to call.
I took some deep breaths, made it through some of the calls and had some success, but it wasn’t until I did one thing that I relaxed and my project kicked into high gear.
What did I do? I asked for help.
I asked a group of my friends if any of them would be willing to help me with the calls. I was blown away when 3 moms volunteered. These moms weren’t any less busy than me and I don’t think they relished contacting strangers any more than I do. But they offered to help. Suddenly my calling power was multiplied by 3! One mom even came back to get more names to call! Awesome!
I’m a big proponent of getting your kids to pitch in. But I often forget that there are others who might be available to me.
The Myth of the Super-mom
I think sometimes as moms who like to be super-productive and get things done, we forget that we don’t have to do it all alone. We think we can do things better or that we shouldn’t burden others with requests for help. But this isn’t the way it should be! We don’t have to do everything on our own; we can’t in fact. This is just a recipe for burnout.
Asking for help is a sign of weakness.
Yes, it is. But if I try to hide my weakness, I am portraying a false picture to others. I do not want to lie to you, my readers. Please know that I am altogether too human and weak. But here’s the cool thing: the Bible says, “my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” So you see, it’s not shameful to admit weakness; it’s humility.
If you’re struggling with something, consider asking for help, too. You might be surprised who comes to your aid.
Who could you ask for help today?
P.S. Thanks, Lisa, Cheryl and Heather! I couldn’t have done it without you. 🙂
Photo by marc falardeau